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Positive changes in a relationship always begin with positive changes in the individual. |
Extended information about hypnosis for relationships.
When working through relationship issues it is important to be clear about the things that we can change and the things that we can't. There are times when factors outside of our control put pressure on the relationship and make it difficult to work through issues. Often we look for the answers in things that are beyond our control such as in our partner's behaviour or in external factors altogether. It can be both challenging and rewarding to discover the degree to which we have control to influence our relationships from within ourselves. This is the area in which hypnosis can help with relationship issues.
The principal by which hypnosis can help for relationships is that any relationship is made up of two individuals and therefore if one of those individuals makes a change then the relationship will change. This may seem like such an obvious thing to say but many people lose sight of this concept when they are caught up in the emotions of a less than satisfactory relationship. Many of the issues in relationships can be placed in one of the two following categories:
- The people in the relationship treat it as an entity that exists apart from themselves. They will be concentrating on "working on the relationship." The intention behind this approach is good but often leads to unsatisfactory results because the emphasis is on the abstract concept of the realtionship rather than on the actual needs of the people in it. It is often useful to shift the focus to the individual needs of the people involved. Once the individuals develop a better understanding of their own needs they are in a better position to tend to the needs of the other.
- Each partner wants the other one to provide the things that make them happy. Sometimes they even want the other person to know what makes them happy even though they themselves don't know what that is. Many are unhappy in relationships because they don't explore what it is they personally want and they don't develop the confidence to share that with their partner. Once the focus turns inward and we know better what we want as individuals and then we develop the confidence to ask for it things can become much clearer and the two people can concentrate on making themselves and each other happier.
Relationships can be one of the most rewarding parts of our lives when things are going well. However because of the potential for such strong emotion they can also be one of the most frustrating and challenging when things aren't going quite how we imagined. We can get so caught up in the intensity, drama, unpredictability or even the repetition of our relationships that we find it difficult to really understand our own feelings yet understanding our personal feelings is the key to improving our relationships. Hypnosis as a tool for personal understanding can be used to:
- Consider differing points of view
- Explore your feelings, wants and needs
- Re-assess your priorities
- Face your fears
- Let go of old emotional baggage
- Understand your own goals
When you understand yourself better you are in a better position to contribute to and work through the issues in your relationship. Sometimes stepping aside from all the intesity for a few moments and getting to know yourself a little better is a powerful way to start to improve your personal relationships. Clinical hypnosis provides an effective context in which this can be done.
